Lamenting Children's Lack Of Unstructured Imaginative Playtime
March 28, 2007
Several months ago, I answered a question from a parent who was bemoaning that in her community, structured activities for preschoolers have become the standard by which a mom is measured - that is, the more activities a preschooler is enrolled in, the better the mom. My petitioner specifically mentioned Kindermusik and Gymboree, and I responded that while none of those activities were harmful per se, the harm was in the fact that today's children are not obtaining the benefits of sufficient unstructured imaginative play. The villains are well-intentioned adults who believe they must micromanage everything children do in order for children to obtain full benefit.
I pointed out that kids seem to have gotten along fine before adults decided they could not figure out how to play on their own. In the process of directing their own play, they learned social skills, including negotiation and conflict resolution, that today's kids miss. I also mentioned that no one has yet demonstrated what disadvantage there is for a child who doesn't have those activities in preschool years. Although I did not mention Kindermusik in my reply, the nerves of Kindermusik teachers nationwide were scratched. Nearly 100 of them sent me e-mails (of which half looked suspiciously similar).
I am revisiting that column to make perfectly clear that I stand firm on the issue. I don't really care how supposedly valuable any given preschool activity is; I am continually and permanently disturbed that so few of today's kids are being allowed to just play. Instead, their discretionary time is organized and directed by adults who believe they are on an anointed mission to "improve" them. The unintended consequence is that these children are being deprived of the full benefit of childhood. As they grow, the problem of adult over-involvement only worsens until the teen years, by which time kids don't know how to make creative use of their time, so they turn to such mind-numbing activities as video games.
Shortly after that column appeared, psychologist David Elkind's ("The Hurried Child") latest book, "The Power of Play" (Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2006, $24), hit the shelves. I don't generally review books because I don't want publishers inundating me with requests, but I'm going to break with policy in this case. I think every parent should read this book. In fact, I'm making it an assignment.
Elkind says play is being "silenced" by adult-organized activities, television, video games, and an over-emphasis on academics that has led to the shortening (and in some cases elimination) of recess and physical education. He makes a coherent, readable and altogether fascinating case for adults who are childhood-friendly instead of focused on making sure their kids participate in every "advantage" available.
What it boils down to is that most adults no longer possess a sense of proper boundaries where kids are concerned. They seem to believe that the more involved they are, the better. By contrast, when I was a child, it was my job to keep my parents from getting involved. If I accepted and properly discharged my academic responsibilities, they didn't get involved, and what a wonderful thing that was for them and me both. If I conducted myself properly outside the home, they didn't get involved, and what a wonderful thing that was for them and me both. If I did my chores properly and on time, they didn't get involved, and what a wonderful thing that was for them and me both.
Low adult involvement is still a wonderful, liberating thing for both adult and child. In the most compelling way possible, David Elkind recommends that you give it a try, and I second that emotion.
Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents' questions on his website, www.rosemond.com.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
From the Archives
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Best bet for Salem on June 3: Confluence @ Salem's First Congregational Church

Pride & Praise
A choral celebration of who we are, praise for life, and the power of music to make you smile, help you heal, tap your feet, and rock out, all in one concert. The program ranges from the opening Buddhist mantra “Gate Gate” to “Somewhere” from Westside Story, and includes “I Want You to Know Who I Really Am,” “Gloria” from the Misa Criolla, “Acclamation” from The Gospel Mass, and Michael Jackson's "Will You Be There."
We will have a raffle for a weekend at the Wave Catcher condo in Waldport, convenient to Yachats and Newport. Tickets will be sold at all three concerts with the winner announced on Sunday, June 5. Tickets will also be available from chorus members. You need not be present to win. Go to http://www.wavecatcherbeachrentals.com/ for details.
Tickets (general admission seating):
Tickets are available in advance ($15 adults/$12 students & seniors) from chorus members or online at http://www.confluencechorus.org/. Or buy at the door ($18/$15).
Tickets purchased online up to noon on Sunday March 13 will be held at the ticket desk.
Times and Locations
- Friday June 3, 7:30— Salem, First Congregational Church, 700 Marion St.
- Saturday June 4, 7:30—Portland, Bethlehem Lutheran Church, 1244 NE 39th Ave.
- Sunday June 5, 4:30—Corvallis, UU Fellowship of Corvallis, 2945 NW Circle Blvd.
Confluence: Willamette Valley LGBT Chorus
Building Bridges Through Song
Like to sing? Ask any chorus member about how much fun they have singing with Confluence. Next term starts September 11.
On the S-K School Board Race results
So my first comment: we should drop the zone residency requirement that prevents qualified candidates from running for school board unless they live in one particular zone. The challenges schools face are fearsome; we cannot afford to limit candidate pools with district maps that put two high schools in some zones, no high schools in others, while families often enroll kids in schools outside their “home” zone anyway. I felt compelled to file in this election because no one else had. Luckily, we did have a contested race, but I don’t think it’s any insult to me or Jeff to say that we would have benefited from a wider, more diverse pool of candidates. Schools are where we should most discourage thinking about “my area” first. We need board member who think about what’s best for the whole district, not a particular area; we make policy at the whole district level, not the “zone” level. So we should allow candidates for all seats from the whole district too.
My second comment is that our greatest challenge is that the much-touted link between education and lifetime economic security has always been deceptive. That is, just like the rooster who likes to think that the sun comes up because the rooster crows, schools got used to thinking that they caused, rather than benefited from, the rising general wages and prosperity of the US economy, which covered a multitude of educational sins and mistaken beliefs about the schooling.
It is no coincidence that the broad critique of education as a system in crisis (epitomized by the “A Nation at Risk” grenade thrown during the first Reagan administration) came about a decade after the US lost its ability to control and limit the price of oil in 1970, far ahead of the conventionally understood schedule. Once the US could not control prices for oil and energy – in a country where our historic and unprecedented wealth depended more on abundant cheap energy than any other factor -- our economy began wrenching, painful changes. Where we had enjoyed steady growth rates, rising wages, and rising profit rates throughout the postwar era, we soon suffered a downward ratchet that was just as powerful. Few understood what had changed, but all experienced the discomfort of it.
And schools became a convenient scapegoat for that discomfort. Schools enjoyed undeserved credit for the booming postwar economy; now they get equally undeserved blame for the struggling state of the US economy. The reason this is crucial is that we appear to be embarked on an effort to destroy the best parts of our schools in an ill-advised effort to chase “achievement” scores on standardized tests in the hope that goosing those numbers upward will bring back the economy. And we will find out that, like King Canute at the seashore ordering out the tide, schools are simply not as powerful as we believed.
While schools are far from perfect, it’s critical not to blame schools and teachers for failing at what they never could do anyway -- even if, like the rooster, they used to like taking credit for it. The bottom line is that, when the pie is generally bigger, everyone gets a little more, and schools look pretty good, basking in the rosy glow of that prosperity. But when the economy contracts – as the US economy will likely do for years or decades to come – schools get interrogated under a much harsher light. Parental anxieties, particularly in the middle class, shoot to the fore. The whole “competition” language that dominates education discussions today is telling; the more uncertain and anxious parents feel about the world their children will inherit, the more they lash out at schools.
The key challenge for the Salem-Keizer district will be helping organize support for those programs and activities that define the difference between an educated person and a trained one, and helping everyone recognize the importance of helping students become successful as people, not just as economic units.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Tickets on sale today for inaugural "Capital City Chicken Coop & Garden Tour"
Looking for a fun, inexpensive family activity for Father's Day? Buy a ticket to the very first Capital City Chicken Coop & Garden Tour. Just $7 for the whole family!Tickets go on Sale May 15! Get your tickets for Salem's Capital City Chicken Coop & Garden Tour at these fine establishments:
CITY has teamed up with Friends of Salem Saturday Market to host a Chicken Coop and Garden Tour. Fifteen backyards in Salem will be showcased featuring a variety of different coop and garden styles and an assortment of chicken breeds, including bantams (miniature chickens).
You’ll also see composters, greenhouses, and even a backyard beekeeping operation. This is a great way to learn how to transform your traditional yard, no matter how small, into a thriving ecosystem where you can produce your own eggs, vegetables, fruits and honey and at the same time, reduce waste and mitigate the need for pesticides.
Spend as much or as little time as you like at any or all of the stops along the way on this self-guided tour and chat with folks about coop construction, hen-keeping, gardening, etc. Feel free to ask questions and take pictures.
Tickets are 16-page color booklets (see picture on the right) that include photographs of each yard, along with full descriptions and addresses. You can visit the sites in any order you like, or travel the suggested route on the provided map. Kick-off activities begin at 10:00 at Coop Tour Headquarters - 1580 Roosevelt Dr NE, Salem OR.
Please help us get the word out about this event by posting in your blogs, on your Facebook pages, twitter, etc. Email me if you'd like a copy of the Press Release and/or pictures.
THANK YOU!
Salem:
- 13th Street Nursery;
- Champion Feed;
- Pet Etc;
- Salem Saturday Market (at the Friends of Salem Saturday Market booth)
Keizer: Copper Creek Mercantile
Dallas: Old Mill Feed & Garden
All proceeds go toward promoting backyard chicken-keeping.
Friday, May 13, 2011
Back to the future with 4H and FFA
The 4H programs and Future Farmers of America programs are especially vital now that the world is learning, to its dismay, that there is no magic pixie dust that allows us to keep adding people to a finite planet without having to search harder for resources and fight over them more.
Our agricultural ignorance is what allows us to be sold policies that starve people in poor countries so that we can squander vast resources while pretending to create "renewable" fuels by turning petroleum-based agricrops into ethanol (while exhausting and depleting the soils and damaging rivers and the atmosphere).
In the future, one of the most important skills will be knowing how to manage food crops in harmony with the natural local cycles and traits. The 1500 mile salad is likely to be as long gone as the dodo bird -- we will, perforce, whether we want to or not, be "locavores" to a great extent. Our schools should be doing a lot more to make sure that we can actually thrive while doing so.
The members of the Oregon State Fair Foundation would be honored to have you attend the ribbon cutting for the Oregon Youth Village. We want to take this time to thank our supporters, past board members, donors, and grantors. We also want to welcome the public to come and find out about the Oregon Youth Village.
Please join us for the all day celebration...
7:00 am Public Tours Start
12:00 Ribbon Cutting Ceremony - with Mayor Anna Peterson
7:00 pm Public Tours End
The Oregon State Fair Foundation is pleased to announce the official ribbon cutting for the first of 25 Oregon Youth Village Cabins on the Oregon State Fair Grounds. These cabins will house the 4H and FFA youths during State Fair each summer. OSFF would be honored if you would join us on Friday, June 24th 2011. Public tours of the cabin start at 7am. We have featured speakers, and several legislative and other community leaders in a video presentation throughout the day. Cabin tours for the public will continue until 7pm.
For more information please see our website at www.oregonstatefairfoundation.org.
Please call 503-779-4152 for more information.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
A great example of a question useful for teaching history
1) ARE states permitted to require voters to have identification and show it to poll workers?
2) SHOULD they?
3) Why might that be a good idea? Or a bad one?
4) What might be the unintended (or unstated, intended) consequences of doing so?
5) Is there any need to do so?
This single question could be the focus of a year long inquiry that might well travel under the title "History," "Civics," or "Social Studies," take your pick.
- Another: Was the American Civil War about slavery or not? If so, which side won?
- Another: Should Obama be impeached for refusing to prosecute or continuing to engage in torture, unconstitutional imprisonments, and unconstitutional warmaking?
- Or "Does the absence of conscription make it too easy for politicians to wage war?"
- Or "Gun control neither reduces crime nor makes the populace safer. True or false."
In schools, we go about it all wrong -- we presume that if we drag kids through "the curriculum" (the agreed-upon, inoffensive, politically correct cartoons about history that make it through the smoothing process designed to ensure that no one, anywhere, is ever offended) enough, they'll be able to engage questions like this, using evidence and analogies to history. Of course, what actually tends to happen instead is that most American students turn into Americans adults, people who are frighteningly ignorant about their own history, and (to within a tiny fraction of one percent) 100% ignorant of any other history save that which makes for good viewing on the History Channel.
If reproduction had to be taught and we taught reproduction the way we teach history, I'd fear for our ability to maintain our own numbers -- we'd have a nation far more interested in watching it on video than in participating.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Flunking civics
But it is certainly true that the mania for standardized testing has caused a huge wrong turn in the curriculum -- we've removed a great deal of emphasis on the subjects for which one would most want to (or be enticed to) read.
The bottom line is that we seem to be asking schools to produce a class of people different from their parents, and that is never going to happen. And since Americans are, on the whole, far too allergic to math, scientific reasoning, and critical thinking about social issues and history, we've painted ourselves into a box; we cut, cut, and cut the classes most likely to be successful in helping kids see why they might want to know more math than arithmetic or actually study difficult questions in history, claiming that we have to "get back to the basics."
But "teaching the basics" is like making blind people memorize the eye chart -- sure, you can beat them and bore them and berate them enough that some will do it, and if you make a big enough deal about it, some will feel good about having done it. But it's essentially useless. If you want to succeed in teaching "the basics" then you need to be teaching something that's inherently interesting and that relies on those "basics" -- history without all the interest removed, for example, history taught as if kids were going to take their place in society as voters rather than take their place in SAT prep courses.
Monday, May 9, 2011
How much is oil really worth? And what would be left over for other things?
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Just nine days left to vote for Salem-Keizer School Board races
At 8 p.m. a week from Tuesday, we will have elected two new members to the Salem-Keizer School Board, responsible for overseeing Oregon's second-largest school district.
In Zone 6, an incumbent is running unopposed; in Zone 4, Jim Green is running against a nominal opponent who actually filed for three different races and has only campaigned for transit board.
An in Zone 2, the only actually contested race, one of the two candidates is your LOVESalem HQ editor, who suggests these two pieces as important food for thought on the state and direction of our schools: "Dear Secretary Duncan" and "The Testing Machine," a vital warning about what happens when standardized "achievement" tests dominate thinking about school performance.
The local paper's endorsement (and link to the one-hour joint interview) is here.
A gloss on the contested races here.
Last month, the Chamber of Commerce asked candidates a series of written interview questions and promised that the questions and answers would run in the local business monthly. Oddly enough, with no warning, that didn't happen for some reason. So I am publishing the questions and my responses here:
Questions:
1) Very specifically, what do you feel is the greatest barrier to the school district helping students achieve their full academic potential?
Our greatest achievement barrier is our failure to specify and publish detailed learning and measurable intermediate and final performance objectives for all K-12 subjects and our failure to link annual student progress and ultimate grad standards to meeting those objectives rather than to endurance of classroom hours.
Failing to provide detailed learning objectives and performance standards makes it hard for students and families to check their own progress through the curriculum; it also makes students depend on teachers rather than allowing motivated students to progress through the curriculum at a pace that maintains interest. It also makes it hard for students and families to create and implement an individual education plan tailored for each specific student.
But with those learning goals published, parents and teachers can meet annually (joined by the student when older) and agree on their child’s specific goals for the year, targeting the specific objectives to be tackled that year. The job of the district is then to help the family choose and then provide the optimal instruction methods and experiences for the agreed learning, given the student’s learning style, the family willingness to take responsibility for helping the student, and the specific goals selected.
2) How would you create a system to reward high performing teachers for their positive impact on student success?
Students are not widgets. Teachers cannot be ranked like factory workers applying a uniform coating to widgets.
The costly, wasteful, and ineffective fixation on standardized testing is driven by the misconception that you can get better results by ranking individual teachers, giving greater rewards to some and punishing others, as if teachers just don’t care to do a good job now.
Reality: ultimate student success at graduation (or dropping out) appears largely determined before school begins, probably before age three. Teachers whose students enjoy the necessary success attributes in life win awards; the same teachers, with too many students lacking the success assets, will struggle heroically against these deficits, but be labeled failures.
We need measurement not of teachers but of the district. We need long-term monitoring tools to tell us how well we helped families prepare their students for healthy, successful lives. It will be hard to learn to do, but we need to get and use as much data as we can on these real-world outcomes, so we can continually improve our results. Hard, but not impossible, and a crude measure of something important is better than a precise measure of something irrelevant, like standardized test scores.
3) How can you give parents a voice in helping quantify the performance of teachers?
By instituting a system of annual individual education plans for all students, where parents and teachers (and the older students) jointly plan and commit to the goals for the upcoming year, we create the opportunity for accountability, not just for teachers but for all the parties essential for educational success.
Letting parents play a bigger role in selecting learning objectives each year will enhance opportunities for and the commitment to parental involvement and support for the agreed learning program. Critically, an agreed set of specific learning and performance objectives for each student each year lets parents monitor the school and the student both, assessing student learning and identifying specific problems and weaknesses.
Then, as part of the planning for the following year, the parents and the district review the student’s performance against the agreed goals, including how well the parents thought the student did, how well the teachers thought the student did in mastering the learning, and the reason for any discrepancies. Where results have fallen short of expectations, the most important question is whether the school let the partner student and parents know early enough to respond or not.
Start on Mother's Day, be in business by Father's Day, Successful by Labor Day
The following gardens have rental plots currently available for the 2011 Season. Prices vary, and some gardens are free. Please contact the listed coordinator to sign up or get more info!
Calvary Chapel Community Garden
1550 Hoffman Rd. NE, Salem
Michael Harrington
503-304-8840
John Knox Community Garden
452 Cummings Ln., Keizer
Mary Jo Emmett
503-393-0404
Julie’s Garden
590 Elma St. SE, Salem
Cindy Kimball
503-385-1876
Our Savior’s Lutheran Community Garden (1 plot left!)
1770 Baxter Rd. SE, Salem
Bruce Stock
503-399-8601
Orchard Heights Community Garden
Orchard Heights Park, West Salem (5 left)
Angela Jones
angelajjones62@comcast.net
Southeast Salem Neighborhood Garden
410 19th St. SE, Salem
Nicole McDavid
971-208-5402
West Salem Boys & Girls Club Community Garden
925 Gerth St. NW, West Salem
Jan Schmitt
(503) 580-2400
Whittam Community Garden
5205 Ridge Dr. NE, Keizer
Kathy Whittam
kwhittam@comcast.net
Planting Communities! Gardens Network (Woodburn)
Gardens at: Downtown Woodburn, First Presbyterian and Farmworker Housing
Ian Niktab
(503) 544-0401
Patchwork Community Gardens Project (Silverton)
Bernadette Mele
(503) 873-1148
Mill City Community Garden (Mill City)
Kimmel Park
Susan Chamberlin
503-373-9652
St Joseph’s Community Garden (Mt. Angel)
925 Main St.
Sr. Marcella
503-845-6147
Grande Ronde Community Garden (Grande Ronde)
825 Grande Ronde Rd.
Patrice Qualman
503-879-5731
Also Northgate Forgiveness and Peace Garden (503-949-8062) as well as Southeast Keizer Community Garden (503-390-2715) do not give individual plots, but are seeking volunteers to get involved. They are group run, and produce is shared with volunteers.